vasectomy QUESTION from Lynne Stiles on January 7, 2003 I am a cradle Catholic who had fallen away but returned to the church in 1999. My husband converted at that time. We have two children. Without understanding the Church's teaching on birth control, I asked my husband to have a vasectomy. I now know the seriousness of this decision. I know I need to ask forgiveness through reconcilliation, but am unsure how to help my husband with this problem, since I lead him to this decision and he was unknowing regarding the Church's teaching.
ANSWER by Mr. Troy Martz on January 11, 2003 Dear Mrs. Stiles:
First, praise God that you have matured in your understanding of the Church's teaching to recognize the seriousness of sterilization.
Though you do need to avail yourself of the Sacrament of Confession, but be sure to accept the forgiveness and Grace offered by the priest. Encourage your husband also to seek and accept forgiveness. Often the most difficult thing with these types of sins is being able to accept forgiveness.
I would encourage you to use your experiences to teach others the value of living the teaching of the Church. If it is medically and financially feasible, you and your husband may prayerfully consider a reversal. Though that is not necessary to receive forgiveness, it may be a way to encourage others to avoid and understand this sin.
Pax Christi, Troy
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